Relationships require a lot of work and sooner or later, your bound to hit a snag with your loved one. As time goes on, you may even find that the spark you had for each other just isn’t there anymore. While you may never get that feeling of puppy love again, there are things you can do to turn your stagnant relationship into a fun one.
And without further ado, here are five tips for putting the spark back into your relationship.
Forgive – It’s no accident that this one tops the list. Most relationships begin to struggle when one or both partners are holding a grudge of some type. This grudge could be something as little as not putting the toilet seat down, or talking too much on the phone to spending your hard earned cash wrecklessly and being to hard on the kids.
Often times, it’s the small things that get to us. It’s the way he chews with his mouth open, or the way she leaves her make up all over the counter, or that annoying joke that he tells at every single social gathering and AGHHHHH! All these little things pile up and begin to drive you crazy!
But here’s what you need to remember. You have habits that are annoying too. Granted, they may not be annoying to you or to other people, but they are annoying to your partner. You need to keep in mind that we’re all different, and the little things that annoy you are just that. Little.
So instead of dwelling on all those little things you can’t stand, forgive your partner by focusing on the positive things instead. And if your partner does something that really bothers you, then make time so that the two of you can talk about it.
Of course, some issues such as drinking, infidelity, drug use or any number of things are harder to forgive and more important than that, can not be ignored. In these cases, it’s best to see a professional counselor so that both of you can get the help and resources that you need.
Engage In Activities That You Both Enjoy – So you and your partner don’t have much in common, huh? If you sat down together and talked about the different experiences you’d like to have, you would probably have that you have more in common than you think.
Don’t try to drag your partner into an experience that he or she isn’t interested in. That’s a good way to waste both of your time and to insure that each of you will be miserable. He’ll be miserable because he doesn’t want to be there, and you’ll be miserable because you can’t enjoy yourself while he’s there.
Engaging in activities together is a great way to recreate your bond while introducing some fun back into your life. You’ll want to find activities that you can do often. These can be range from
*Going on long walks
*Going to your favorite amusement park
*Eating at your favorite hole-in-the-wall restaurant
*Going to a local Karoake bar to heckle the bad singers (or to be one of the bad singers)
*Ride your bikes along the river
Whatever it is, make sure that it’s something the two of you enjoy. This helps to create a joyful experience which in turn, transfers those warm, fuzzy feelings to your partner.
Write Notes To Each Other – Writing notes and placing them where your loved one will see them is a way of saying “I love you and I’m thinking about you.” Of course, your notes don’t always have to be full of mooshy love poems (but if they are, that’s fine too). Your notes can consist of sincere expressions of praise, thankfulness or love. They can even be little jokes, riddles or silly questions. Never write a mean note, that defeats the purpose. Only write notes that will make your partner smile.
Create Something Together – Creating is fun, and each of us have a natural gift at creating something. Oh and I should mention that creating drama is not an option here!
When you and your partner create something together, it gives you the opportunity to see each other’s hidden gifts and talents. It’s also a good example of what you’re able to accomplish when you work together as a team. You can create a scrapbook, a small business doing something you both enjoy, a new invention or any number of things. Be creative and make a promise that the two of you will be encouraging and supportive in this new creation.
Pray – Praying or meditating together can bring you and your partner closer in a deep and profound way. When you and your partner engage in this type of activity together, your brainwaves begin to blend together and you end up operating on the same level of vibration. There is no other experience like it on earth. You will feel the very soul and life essence of your partner, and you will come to appreciate each other in a whole new way.
If your partner is not into religious or spiritual things, that’s alright. You can pray and meditate on your own while asking God and your guides to slowly open your partner’s eyes to spiritual things. It’s important that you respect your partner’s spiritual beliefs or lack thereof. If you can continue to approach your partner in a way that is loving and respectful, then he or she will eventually come around. It may take some time so be patient and never, ever force the issue.
What are some things that you and your partner have done to put the spark back into your life? Leave a comment below and tell us all about it. We’d love to hear from you!